It seems that it has become the norm to not care about others. If you scroll through your Facebook feed you are probably going to see some sort of hate, bullying, or negativity. If you are on the freeway, you are probably going to see some sort of road rage. If you are at work, you are probably going to hear gossip and negativity about a co-worker.
It needs to stop. We need to act differently.
As a society, we continue to use more and more communication outlets. The problem is that these outlets are not helping us help others. They are giving us new platforms to express negativity.
It is okay to have an opinion about a person, political landscape, or view on a current affair. However, it is important to be mindful of others and be nice about it.
People want niceness, they want to belong, they want a friend they can count on. Be that person, not the negative nelly.
Okay, we all believe that we should be nice to others. Maybe we even try to be nice to others, but it is easier said than done. I know that I am guilty of being an asshole from time to time. So, let’s discuss a few reasons why we should be nice to others.
Sometimes People Just Need a Friend
I remember when I was laid off from my high paying marketing job. I was 28, had a family, and had no idea what I was going to do. My life had just been flipped on its head. I needed a few friends. Yes, we had a few months savings, but things were going to get rough.
My situation was not ideal. However, one of the ways that I was able to get through this was a few of my close co-workers reached out. They called, gave me some words of encouragement, and were just nice. These co-workers are still close friends today.
The support from these few individuals gave me enough encouragement to keep my head up. Their niceness and caring, helped me turn this negativity into a learning experience. It helped turn my situation into a positive. These coworkers gave me confidence and encouragement to start my marketing agency.
Just having a friend gave me the ability to keep pushing forward.
You Never Know Who is Looking
Your children will follow your example, not your advice.
This point is not going to resonate with everyone but take it for what it is. I am the father of 4 awesome kids. It is my goal to have them grow up caring about people, being nice to others, and just being awesome people (just like their Dad).
If you are a parent, you know that these little eyes are on you 24/7/365. If for any reason I am being mean, obnoxious, or an ass, they are the first to call me out. Not my wife, not my friends, not my co-workers, my kids.
The point here is simple. You never know who is watching you. Just like my kids, co-workers, employees, friends, siblings, or your spouse are looking at you to set an example.
Be the example, not the ass.
It is the Right Thing
“Always have a willing hand to help someone, you might be the only one that does.”
We all have excuses to why we are not being nice to others. We are too busy, we have other things to do, the other person is a jerk. There are more excuses and reason, not to be nice than to be nice. But being nice is just the right thing to do.
This point is going to sound like a no-brainer. Being nice to others is just the right thing to do. I mean nobody wants to hang out with an asshole.
Kindness Brings People Together
Over the years, I have made it a point to be nice. It is mostly because I care about people. The thing that I have noticed the most is being nice brings people together. People like to be around others that are going to treat them right.
Surprised, you shouldn’t be.
As you are nice to others, this kindness rubs off on the group you hang out with. You have heard of the pay it forward experiments at Starbucks. When one person shows an act of kindness, people tend to repay that kindness.
Bring others together through your acts of kindness. This is going to attract the right people in your life and help you make real connections with people that care.
It makes you feel better
I remember when I was in 5th or 6th grade there was a new kid to the school. My friends and I were all playing basketball, messing around. I looked over and he was sitting on the blacktop, a little too shy to ask to play. I asked him to come and play with us, he did and became a solid friend through middle school and high school.
I don’t know about you, but I love helping people. This is the reason I started Cobound. Turns out that helping kids play sports is still close to my heart.
Small side tangent. I believe that sports are where kids learn to be nice to others. Yes, some jerks come from sports, but this is when we learn how to be a great teammate. We learn how to treat others. We learn about failure. We learn sportsmanship.
Fast forward to today, it still makes me feel great to help others. I also believe that this is why I succeed in my current job. It makes me happy to help others succeed. Bottom line is that being nice feels good.
Being Nice to Others
It is nice to be important, but it is important to be nice. The bottom line here is that being nice to others is just the right thing to do.
As you go about like ask yourself, how are you going to be nice to people?
Are you going to forgive that person that did you wrong? Are you going to help that person that is struggling at work? Is it time for you to volunteer and give back to the people around you? Give yourself the ability and permission to do good, be nice, and help others.